Yesterday, we went somewhere that both JD and I had been looking forward to. We had tickets ad decided not to go too early since JD would not be able to last all day anyway so better go for a few hours and have fun than go all day and be exhausted. After about 45 minutes, JD said she wanted to sit down. Fair enough. I asked: Are you bored or tired. And she said: both, really. For some reason, that kind of pissed me off. I was really looking forward to going and I wanted to see everything there was to see. So I said: well, if you are tired then we’ll just go home, but if you are bored, then I am going to go and walk around on my own for a bit and see the things I want to see.
So I left her, went away for about 30 minutes and then came back to check on her. She was still a bit bored. Somehow I was pissed off about that. She knows I would do anything for her and go home right away if she was tired. But instead, she spoiled my fun by saying she was bored and did not really want to walk around to look at stuff. I suppose I need to accept that she probably is not able at the moment to take in to account how this makes me feel and that she is not able to say: OK, I might be bored but I know how much YOU like it so I’ll come along to make sure you have fun, at least for a little while.
In the end, I only saw about 25% of what there was to see. I know I could have left her sitting with her coffee and just go off for about an hour on my own but you just don’t really do that. Well, I don’t. I’d feel guilty.
So am I right to be pissed off with her? Should she have made a bit of an effort for me for a change? After all, she said she wasn’t tired. Just bored.
On the positive side: we got free tickets to part of the show. The tickets cost £8 and we had no cash. I looked at JD and she nodded in quiet approval. And so I said: Please, can you let us in? My wife here has been through a rough time recently (I pointed at her bald head and scar across the skull) and this is the first time she is on a day out since treatment. The man squirmed in sympathy and said: OK then, in you go!
Score! Might as well use the bloody tumour for something good hey! So far we got a free hotel upgrade, free entrance to a theatre and, oh, something else I can’t remember. Mind you, I DO always check with AB before I appeal to people’s sympathy. After all, she’s not some kind of commodity. Not a ticket to free stuff.