As it is a new year, I thought it would be a good idea to look back at 2009 in a really quick summary. So what has happened this year (and, more importantly, who cares about this kind of self-indulgent navel-gazing??)
January – June
JD had to have radiotherapy on her braintumour. Every day for 6 weeks we got in the car for an hour to have 10 minutes of treatment. We had been warned about possible side effects but let me tell you: radiotherapy to the head is fucking devastating. Only in September did JD start to recover from the damage. No concentration (and I mean: not even for 2 minutes!), extreme lethargy, forgetfulness to the point of forgetting to eat and forgetting what day it was, non-stop eating, depression, lack of initiative, self-centeredness, inability to understand emotions, both her own and other people’s, unable to plan more than 5 minutes ahead, not able to have a phone conversation with the radio on, the list goes on. We were not properly warned and for the first time since she was diagnosed back in 2005, I really felt like screaming, hopelessly desperate and unable to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I just could not see how JD would ever get better again. And I am not talking better from the tumour but just recovering from the damage of the radiotherapy.
Life just stopped being anything like it was before and I had a tough time living my own life as well as living JD’s life for her more or less. I don’t care if people think I am being selfish for saying it was difficult for me (after all, JD is the one with the nasty tumour) but it was. So there.
June – December
Life has a funny way of throwing things at you. In June I read something in a local rag about Spratton Folk Festival. It said all-female group Invocal would provide the local flavour to the festival. So I checked them out. Found they were looking for a singer. Agonised about it for days (am I good enough, I’m shit, really), got in touch, did not get the job but ended up as their ‘manager’ in the end.
No idea what a manager does so I just jumped in, started about 50 things at the same time, then drowned in ther amount of work I started and did not finish (ADHD much?) but managed to do some good stuff in between. (video, brochures, PR, general organising, whatever). The only thing I have not managed to do is book any gigs. Bit of a bummer really… keep working on it. (see how I managed to avoid saying I am talking about Invocal here!)
Anyway, it is absolutely lovely to be doing something in music again, even if it is not performing and playing. Sometimes I feel like a groupie and a fraud. But I just love being around music and people who make music. It just feels like a lovely warm blanket. The unexpected side effect is that I have also made some new friends and I have actually seen more pubs since June than my entire life before then. Yes, I have a social life. Well, I had one before but not in Northampton. Never got round to building a new one after moving here.
JD recovered well from the radiotherapy but has lasting trouble with her concentration and some remaining lethargy that may not go away. Unfortunately the RT did not help & the tumour actually changed in to a Grade 3 Astrocytoma in certain places which means it went from wholly benign to partly malignant. Bummer.
So she started chemotherapy in August. 5 days of Temozolomide per month. For 6 months initially. She will be on that for as long as it stops the tumour from growing. Which may be for the rest of her life. IF it stops it from growing. We’ll know after the first post-chemo scan in February 2010.
My sister gave birth to her second daughter, a tiny little puppet called Alessia. Hurrah. Now my folks are proper grand parents I am I am officially off the hook for providing the offspring. Phew!
That’s about it really. Other than a lovely holiday in France and erhm….lots of other stuff I have forgotten about for the moment.
Resolutions for 2010:
– Book more gigs
– Be more organised
– Go out more
– Make money & get paid
– Find a cure for AIDS & brain tumours