JD is now virtually unconscious/asleep all day. Her breathing is extremely shallow. It breaks my heart that we are basically waiting for her to die from dehydration. I asked the nurse about giving Jane extra morphine to speed up the process but because JD does not appear to be in much pain (or she is and can’t show in any way), they can not give her much as there needs to be a reason for giving her morphine, i.e. a nurse needs to verify JD needs it. Here is one situation where I wish there was a law on euthanasia (and no, I am not looking to start a discussion on that here, just saying that I personally just don’t see the point in having to watch Jane die of starvation & dehydration over a period of weeks when she could just go to sleep peacefully).
Anyway, I have really come to know our friends over the past few weeks. Having so many visitors is quite stressful as everyone wants some time alone with JD to say their goodbyes. Planning all that is not easy. However, it is absolutely wonderful to see how many people care deeply for JD. Some friendships have really grown stronger and although not everyone has been to visit, there isn’t anyone of JD’s friends who has faded away or not been in touch. Some of them needed some encouragement after my blog post of a few weeks ago, but they still came through in the end.
Yesterday, two of our friends, who are in a band together, sat at Jane’s bedside and, with a guitar, played a couple of Jane’s favourite songs for her. She blinked twice so I assume she heard it. It was wonderful. I had tears in my eyes. I recorded a video of it which I will treasure forever.
A friend sent me an extremely insightful article about hospice care versus keeping treatment going at all costs. It is a long article and American and also not specifically brain tumour related but it resonated with me in many ways. Especially when it comes to doctors almost actively avoiding raising the issue of perhaps ending treatment and just enjoying the last few months.